I never decided whether to change my last name following marriage. No logical, convenient solution emerged, particularly given that hubby and I lack last names designating families. They're not
names. Instead, we share our last names with
every member of our father's religions! And we don't follow either faith.
You simply can't say, "go make Sikhism look good". It doesn't have quite the identity-driven parental pressure that, "you're a Walker, now go make me proud has", does it? This
in- or lack of a decision confuses people, but a close friend handled it brilliantly, erasing neither half of my union. Read on:
What salutation should we use to address you and your husband on the save-the-dates (and later the wedding invitations)? The traditional formal format for such invites is Mr. and Mrs. [Husband's First and Last Name]. However, in the case of marriages where couples kept separate last names, or one has a hyphenated name, it's different.
I wanted to ask which you prefer: Mr. and Mrs. [husband's full name] OR Mr. [husband's full name] and Mrs. [first name + last name + husband's last name].
[Husband] said to address you all as: "[Husband's full name] and [Wife's full name]", which doesn't have any Mr/Mrs/Ms in it.
Is it really that simple? Yes, respecting an identity and not erasing someone is as simple as this quick e-mail before sending out invites. And, after all, we're not Mr. or Ms., just our names, right?
This post is dedicated to feminists Will (excited to be a part of your marriage beginning!) and Mr. Epi Tales (ha!).
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weddinginvitations123.net
